Sunday, January 7, 2007: Went out with teacher guy today. He was cute, but there was something missing. It ended with a "talk to you soon." Then two days later, I get an email from him saying that he has several dates that week and that he'll "get back to me." Seriously?! I'm telling you people, I am not un-dateable. Whatever. Haven't spoken to him since.
Tuesday, January 9, 2007: "Full of Himself Guy", who later became known as "Douchebag Lee", called to make sure we are still on for drinks tonight. Realizing that I was dreading meeting him, I did what any normal person would do. I cancelled. Actually, I told him that I had met someone else and wanted to see where it took me. So I cancelled and I lied. Oh well. He asked me to rate his looks on a scale of 1 to 10 based soley on a grainy picture of him in a suit from the profile that I viewed once. Who does that?! NEXT!
Wednesday, January 17, 2007: Today was my first date with "Short Guy". He suggested meeting a wine bar near my house. He likes wine! And not the crummy pink stuff out of a box, either - real wine!!! Dinner was great, as was coffee immediately after. He kissed me. It was awesome. However, I wore a conservative pair of heels and I was almost as tall as him. Sigh.
Sunday, January 14, 2007: Went out with "The Doctor", a guy I have been talking to online for a few weeks now. We had coffee and conversation for three hours. THREE HOURS! I was a little hoarse afterwards. He asked me immediately out to dinner for that night, but I already had dinner plans (with some fresh shrimp that I had bought the day before). We agreed to meet up on Wednesday for dinner.
Tuesday, January 16, 2007: Another date with "Short Guy"! This time, we went to a little holte-in-the-wall bar down on the river, overlooking the Ohio shoreline. You know the type of place, I'm talking about - blue smoke drifting from the cigarettes of the regulars hanging in the air like a veil. Conversation was good again. So was the beer.
Wednesday, January 17, 2007: I haven't heard from "The Doctor", so I thought I would give him a call. Got his voicemail. Left a message asking if we are still on for dinner tonight. Never heard back from him. Something doesn't add up. Also, the number he gave me is a Florida area code, but he claims to have lived in Cleveland before moving to Cincinnati. Hmm.
Thursday, January 18, 2007: "Miami Boy", a guy who went to school at my alma mater (Miami University) and who seems really familiar to me, asks me out for a drink on Friday evening. Unfortunately, I already have plans. We play phone tag before leaving messages for one another as to which day next week will work for our schedules.
Friday, January 19, 2007: Date #3 with "Short Guy". This time, I take him out to a steak dinner. I manage public relations for a high-end steak chain in Cincinnati, so I took him there. As a result, we get the VIP treatment and I look like a rockstar. Plus, most of our meal is comp'ed. Niiiice.
Saturday, January 20, 2007: I got two back-to-back calls from "The Doctor" today. On the second call, he left a message as follows: "Hi Lauren, it's NAME CHANGED TO PROTECT THE INNOCENT. We haven't talked in a while, I thought I'd give you a call and see what you're up to. Maybe we can get together soon." Okay, wait... we had a date planned and you stood me up. Now you're calling me like nothing happened. Are you insane? What's wrong with this picture? We'll see about that.
And so there we are. I am still active on Match.com, but I feel like between "Short Guy" and "Miami Guy" (please, God, let there be chemistry between us because he is AWESOME on paper!) I've got a pretty good thing going. Strangely, the more dates I go on, the less and less I want a boyfriend. I find that I like being single. I like dating. I like the thrill of meeting someone for the first time and seeing what happens.
Happy dating to you all!
1.07.2007
Cingle in the City
Okay, so it is finally time for some details on this little Cingle in the City project that I have been working on. For the past month, I have been using Match.com to connect me with local Cincinnati singles. Now, I have to admit that prior to joining an online dating site myself, I felt like online dating was fine for some people, but not for me. It seemed like a last resort. I am now officially eating those words - online dating is not for "desperate" or "last resort" people. It is a for people who just genuinely want to meet others but don't necessarily have the opportunity to meet them in traditional ways, or who are tired of meeting people in crowded bars and clubs.
I was inspired to join an online dating site when a friend of mine - an attractive, smart, great friend of mine - met her current boyfriend online. She was going on dates 3 or 4 times a week before meeting this particular boy. She convinced me it would be worth a shot.
Here are the past and current contenders, with names changed to protect the innocent:
"Young Boy": Young Boy is a year (or was it two?) younger than me and a student at UC. From his pictures and emails, he seemed really cool. We met for coffee a few weeks ago after exchanging a couple dozen emails, IMs and phone calls. Although he was a cutie, we had no chemistry. We both walked away knowing we wouldn't be seeing eachother again.
"Old Guy": Old Guy is on the older end of the age spectrum that I put down in my match criteria. Okay, so he's 30, which isn't even old. He was cute and funny in his emails and great to talk to on the phone. We met for lunch before Christmas and had a nice lunch... good conversation and not a lot of awkwardness. However, he wanted me to come over to his house like two days after we first met and when I said I wasn't comfortable doing that, he stopped talking to me. Whatever. Not worth it.
"Teacher guy": Teacher guy is someone I'm actually meeting for coffee today. Based on his profile and the emails we have exchanged, he is a 100% match for me in every way possible. Teacher Guy is a teacher (duh) in inner city Cincinnati. He loves the arts, music, books and many other things that I also enjoy. We'll see what happens when I meet him in person, but my hopes are high!
"Short Guy": Short Guy is a little shorter than I usually date, based on his profile (5'5"). Now granted, he is still taller than me in heels. His emails have been great and we are definitely on the same wave length. He has a great heart and a great sense of humor, which really shines through in his emails. Plus, he enjoys cultural things like the symphony and art museums, but he is also a guy's guy. I'm so excited about this one! We are going to try to meet this week.
"The Big Sneeze": The Big Sneeze is someone who'd I'd be interested in if he reciprocates my interest. With Match.com, you can "wink" at someone to show that you are interested and then if they respond in kind, you start exchanging emails, etc. I winked at The Big Sneeze (this code name is based on his username...) a couple of days ago, but I haven't heard back from him. So we'll see.
"Full Of Himself Guy": Full of Himself Guy and I are supposed to have a drink tomorrow, but the Ohio State/Florida game is tomorrow and I don't want to miss any of it so I think I am going to try to reschedule. Full of Himself Guy makes tool-ish comments like "How would you rate my looks on a scale of 1 to 10", "I have a pretty nice apartment, so I wanted to show it off..." and giving me every gory detail of his dates with other girls. Hello?! Dating 101, dude: Do not share the details of your dates with a girl who you are also trying to date. I already screen his calls and get annoyed when I talk to him on the phone, but I think it is worth seeing him in person before I decide that it won't work out.
In addition to these guys, I have met a lot of other men online - doctors, engineers, biomedical researchers, lawyers, etc. - who are well-balanced, successful, nice guys and who have a lot to offer a girl. It has been an interesting experiment and now that I have finally opened myself up to the full process, I'm having a lot of fun with it. I'll keep all of my cyber friends as up-to-date as I can as I enjoy my adventures as a Cingle in the City. But it has taken up an amazing amount of time, and since I'm also busy with other aspects of my life, updating this blog has been a little challenging. One of my New Year's Resolutions is to get back into Blogger, so have patience!
I was inspired to join an online dating site when a friend of mine - an attractive, smart, great friend of mine - met her current boyfriend online. She was going on dates 3 or 4 times a week before meeting this particular boy. She convinced me it would be worth a shot.
Here are the past and current contenders, with names changed to protect the innocent:
"Young Boy": Young Boy is a year (or was it two?) younger than me and a student at UC. From his pictures and emails, he seemed really cool. We met for coffee a few weeks ago after exchanging a couple dozen emails, IMs and phone calls. Although he was a cutie, we had no chemistry. We both walked away knowing we wouldn't be seeing eachother again.
"Old Guy": Old Guy is on the older end of the age spectrum that I put down in my match criteria. Okay, so he's 30, which isn't even old. He was cute and funny in his emails and great to talk to on the phone. We met for lunch before Christmas and had a nice lunch... good conversation and not a lot of awkwardness. However, he wanted me to come over to his house like two days after we first met and when I said I wasn't comfortable doing that, he stopped talking to me. Whatever. Not worth it.
"Teacher guy": Teacher guy is someone I'm actually meeting for coffee today. Based on his profile and the emails we have exchanged, he is a 100% match for me in every way possible. Teacher Guy is a teacher (duh) in inner city Cincinnati. He loves the arts, music, books and many other things that I also enjoy. We'll see what happens when I meet him in person, but my hopes are high!
"Short Guy": Short Guy is a little shorter than I usually date, based on his profile (5'5"). Now granted, he is still taller than me in heels. His emails have been great and we are definitely on the same wave length. He has a great heart and a great sense of humor, which really shines through in his emails. Plus, he enjoys cultural things like the symphony and art museums, but he is also a guy's guy. I'm so excited about this one! We are going to try to meet this week.
"The Big Sneeze": The Big Sneeze is someone who'd I'd be interested in if he reciprocates my interest. With Match.com, you can "wink" at someone to show that you are interested and then if they respond in kind, you start exchanging emails, etc. I winked at The Big Sneeze (this code name is based on his username...) a couple of days ago, but I haven't heard back from him. So we'll see.
"Full Of Himself Guy": Full of Himself Guy and I are supposed to have a drink tomorrow, but the Ohio State/Florida game is tomorrow and I don't want to miss any of it so I think I am going to try to reschedule. Full of Himself Guy makes tool-ish comments like "How would you rate my looks on a scale of 1 to 10", "I have a pretty nice apartment, so I wanted to show it off..." and giving me every gory detail of his dates with other girls. Hello?! Dating 101, dude: Do not share the details of your dates with a girl who you are also trying to date. I already screen his calls and get annoyed when I talk to him on the phone, but I think it is worth seeing him in person before I decide that it won't work out.
In addition to these guys, I have met a lot of other men online - doctors, engineers, biomedical researchers, lawyers, etc. - who are well-balanced, successful, nice guys and who have a lot to offer a girl. It has been an interesting experiment and now that I have finally opened myself up to the full process, I'm having a lot of fun with it. I'll keep all of my cyber friends as up-to-date as I can as I enjoy my adventures as a Cingle in the City. But it has taken up an amazing amount of time, and since I'm also busy with other aspects of my life, updating this blog has been a little challenging. One of my New Year's Resolutions is to get back into Blogger, so have patience!
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